MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE

By Kepha, Servant of YaH


Marriage, one of the oldest institutions and traditions of man, is between a man and a woman. It is the foundation of the home, which forms our society, community, nation and none the least, the KINGDOM OF YaH. Marriage is under attack today . Divorce rate have escalated and unmarried motherhood is rampant; same-sex marriage has raise its ugly head and is proliferating. So the foundation of our society is at stake; suffice it to say, the KINGDOM OF YaH is not in our hearts when marital chaos and immorality reigns.  Who knows what next?  Man and woman may want their rights to marry a child, or a beast!   That could happened in a world of fallen man whose number is 6, a symbol of a man upside down.

When YaH made man, He gave him dominion over all the earth, all the beasts of the fields, all the fish in the waters, and all fowls that flies. Then YaH came to talk to him "in the cool of the day."

"And YaH said, it is not good that man should be alone, I will make him a help meet for him."  Gen 2:18.   YaH ELOHIM caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: "and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof. And the rib which YaH  had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man, and Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man."

Scripture added, "Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh. Gen. 2:20-24.

From the preceding accounts five facts of marriage are established.

  • Fact 1. YaH made Adam, the man first  and later on, He made the woman by taking a bone from the man

  • Fact 2. YaH made the woman for the man as a "help meet for him."

  • Fact 3. Marriage is between a man and a woman.

  • Fact 4. A man who marries a woman leaves his parents and cleaves to his wife.

  • Fact 5. A man and woman who marry become one flesh. so they could procreate or multiply.
     

These are the fundamentals of the marriage institution. YaH did not ordain that a man be married to a man nor a man be married to a beast--this is coming to our society soon. Neither did He ordained that women take over the role of a man nor be single unmarried mothers. Any deviation from these principles constitute profanity and sin and should be treated as such. From these fundamentals we are to understand that marriage is for life, a relationship where the husband is the head and covering to his wife and she is  "his help meet."  However way they complement each other is between them.  It is for our happiness and blessings that YaH provides for all our needs. We are to obey the words and laws of YaH if we want to prosper and be blessed, or we shall face the consequences of flouting YaH'S will.

It is the will of YaH that we live according to His all-wise and everlasting purposes for marriage and home. What are they?

In every marriage, a home is established. In every marriage, love and relationship abounds and grows. In every marriage, fruit is wrought. Put in another way, marriage is the foundation of a home. It is also the foundation of the KINGDOM OF YaH. It  is the beginning of a family which extends to YaH'S family. In every home, there must be a man and a woman and the offspring will come--"be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the earth" (Gen. 1:28) is the heavenly command and there are rules to abide.

The head of the Assembly (Kodeshim)  is the MASHIYACH; the Head of the MASHIYACH is YaH, the Father. Eph. 5:23
The head of a woman is man, and man is the head of the home. Eph 5:23.
"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Ha MASHIYACH; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Ha MASHIYACH is YaH." 1 Cor 11:3

"For the man is not of the woman, but the woman is of the man." 1 Cor. 11:8

"I am minded therefore, that the men in every place be offering prayer, uplifting hands of lovingkindness, apart from anger and disputing; In the same way, that the women in seemly attire, with modesty and sober-mindedness, be adorning themselves, not with plaitings and ornamentation of gold or with pearls, or with costly apparel, But (which becometh women promising holiness) through means of good works.  
Let a woman in quietness be learning in all submission.  But teaching, unto a woman, I do not permit, nor yet to have authority over a man, but to be in quietness; For Adam first was formed, then Eve.  And Adam was not deceived, whereas the woman, having been whollydeceived, hath come to be in trangression." 1 Tim 2:8-14 Sacred Name Bible


From the foregoing verses we must know that every home is the very nucleus of the KINGDOM OF YaH.  For the home, which consist of family, makes up the assembly which is, in essence, the KINGDOM OF YaH on earth. Every man is the head of his home or family. He is a leader and a priest to his family.

Man, you are the leader, you are the priest. Do you stand up to that leadership?  Do you stand up to that priesthood?

Even though the man is head of the house or family, he can not take advantage of his wife or abuse her.  While she submits herself to him and is a "help meet for him," he is to love her and sees that her needs are met,  too.  It means he not only lead and give direction and provides for the families' needs, but he is  the priest in the house and he is to take his family before YaH, the King of the Universe morning and evening and present them before Him.  He is to pray for them and intercede for them through YaHSHUA MESSIAH our High Priest before YaH, the Father. It is when he prays and intercedes for them to YaH that his family will be free from strife and troubles. It is then he will find the real peace and blessings of the home. It is then the marriage will last. It is then he can call his home, "Home, sweet home." Here are some guidelines:

1. Set up the family altar and have family worship at least once a day--morning or evening, or better, both.

2. Have personal encounter with YaH ELOHIM, and in your encounter with Him daily, pray for your family. You need to have family worship and you need to have  personal prayer and worship everyday.

Man!  YaH ELOHIM will hold you fully accountable for the state of your family and home. He is not going to hold your wife responsible for your family; He would hold you responsible for your wife, your children, and your family; you are the head of your family.  He wants you to manage it so as to honor and give esteem to Him. And the only way He is glorified and honored is when you lead and give responsible direction and be responsible for all the needs of your wife and children. Then your home will become an exemplary  home for the Kingdom of YaH.

Marriage is for life, and divorce without Biblical cause, is adultery . Remarriage to a divorcee is also adultery.   Unmarried mothers are fornicators and an abomination to YaH ELOHIM. Matt: 5:31,32, Romans 7:1-3.

UNHOLY WEDLOCKS

In our world today, Patriarchal Marriage which was held sacred is now supplanted by Christian marriage.  Christian Marriages today is not Scriptural.  Christian Marriage today is pagan in forms and in teachings.  Christian marriage gave woman--made from the bone of a man--equal rights (liberation, they called it) and authority which is contrary to YaH's design.  Christian Marriages is based on the State Legislation which could be terminated by a divorce called "Decree Nissi.   So men and women in the churches could have the liberty to throw out their lifetime partners, or spouses--tilll death do us part--for whatever reasons deem fit, there is no longer the security and sanctity of marraige.  That is not in the Set Apart Scriptures.  Christian Marriage has now make it possible for men and women to propagate remarriages which is no less than "serial polygamies."  I know of a pastor who bragged of the many times (10th) he has remarried.  What a shame?   Mind you, they frown upon and or condemned polygamies while they mysteriously sanctioned or perpetrate "serial polygamies" by their laws.  What a sham?  What a laughing stock? What sanctimonious hypocrisies?  Now you know what is Christian Marriage!  Every churches do the same thing, they adhere to state laws on marriages. Marriage by legislation!

What ensued is fornication.  Man and woman, having seen the failures and futilities of Christian Marriages, decided they rather not get married and or have children.  That complicated things more,  They venture into pre-marital sex and co-habitation.  Then comes single Unmarried Moms. Where is the family?  A woman who raises kid(s) without the father is not in line with YaH Whose will is for a man to be responsible for his act, (not sowing wild oats), her children are fatherless--such fatherless childen are not the same as an ophan in the eyes of YaH.  Here is a broken home from the start.  Here the children are  unsheltered, regardless of how well-fed they might be.  Here are the many side effects we see in today's social fabric--gays, lesbians, pedophiles, sex perverts, you name it...

"Today, we have witnessed some of the most evil conducts in human history. Man marries man; woman partners woman--these are now shameless;  divorce rates spiralling upward, remarriages abound, and single unmarried motherhood rampant. These are contrary to YaH'S Kadosh purpose for man's happiness and His great family.  These are extensions of Christian mmarriages and they do not come from the teacings of our Father but the government, they are government sanctioned; government legislations.

WE DO NOT HATE GAYS OR LESBIANS BUT ENCOURAGE AND INVITE THEM TO SEEK HEALING FROM YaH ELOHIM SO THAT THEY COULD RETURN TO NORMAL LIFE AND FIND SALVATION. NEITHER DO WE CONDEMN THOSE IN ADULTEROUS RELATIONSHIP BUT WE ENCOURAGE AND INVITE THEM TO SEEK FORGIVENESS, COUNSELLING AND RESTORATION THROUGH THE POWER OF THE SET APART SPIRIT.  THERE IS NO WAY YaH ELOHIM IS GOING TO CONFORM TO THIS WORLD OR COMPROMISE HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS SO THAT SINFUL MAN HAVE THEIR WAYS.  A SOUL THAT SINNETH, IT SHALL DIE IS HIS DECREE.

WE BELIEVE, HaSATAN, WHO CAME AND TOOK PLANET EARTH HOSTAGE SIX THOUSAND YEARS BACK, IS STILL HERE, PILLAGING, PLUNDERING, RAMPAGING AND RAVAGING THIS EARTH IN HIS DESPERATE ATTEMPTS TO KEEP MAN CAPTIVE.  TODAY, HaSATAN HAS REFINED HIS SKILLS TO MANIPULATE WITH HUMAN GENES AND HE IS CERTAINLY AHEAD OF ANY GENETIC SCIENTIST IN MANY WAYS AND IN ANY CASE.  THOSE WHOSE GENES HAS BEEN MANIPULATED BY HaSATAN COULD AND SHOULD TURN TO YaH ELOHIM FOR RESTORATION.  THEY MUST NOT LIVE THE WAY HaSATAN WANTS THEM TO LIVE.  THERE IS HELP AND HOPE IN YaHSHUA HaMASHIYACH, WHO CAME TO SEEK AND SAVE THOSE WHO ARE LOST; HE CAME TO HEAL AND TO SAVE; HE CAME TO MAKE MAN WHOLE.
 
Today there are people who are so perverted that they do the unnatural--man marrying man and woman marrying woman. They have grown so vile that they are embolden to fight for their "rights" to be socially accepted.  Rather than facing the facts and admitting to their sickness, a mental disorder in reality, they want to fight for their right to be wrong. But what is wrong before YaH cannot be made right. He cannot change to meet sinful behavior or sinful demands. On the contrary, we are the ones who need to be changed, and we need to change to be saved. That change is Healing, and YaH has the power to heal. That is why YaHSHUA came and He will come again.  First He came to heal and to save, the next time He comes, He will come to judge.  If a guy is born gay, it is not his fault--it must be noted here that Satan has learned how to manipulate with human genes. But it is a sin to live a gay lifestyle. YaH has the answer to all gay problems. He can heal them. Unless they turn to Him, they won't get permanent, real help, and they will not be healed.

REPENT, FOR THE KINGDOM OF YaH IS AT HAND. All you who erred; all who are heavy laden; come, YaH willl heal you and put you back on that strait path.

A home according to YaH'S purpose is one where a man is the head of the house and the wife is there to hold up his Hands. The children are to be in obedience. The man lends leadership and direction and provides for their wants. There, his wife and children feel safe and happy. That is where the children grow up safe and learn righteousness.  In the absence of that man, his wife stands in. If the eldest son is old enough, he may be called upon to exercise the role of his father to the younger siblings..

When man and woman wander away from YaH'S sancitifed purpose, they fall into Satan's trap. They marry and divorce and then remarry. They try to find happiness in marriage, but they can't find it; instead they drift deeper into the misery of remarriages. Marriage can be very undesirable when it fails. Some divorce just to get rid of their spouse only to find they  need another. And so they remarry only to repeat their errors and miseries. And while many men and women sincerely believe that marrying more than one spouse is adultery and sin, did they not recognize that they are just simply doing what they believed to be wrong? If marriage is for life--many took that vow "till death do us part."--then divorce is a breach of marriage. And marrying  a woman who is divorced is definitely adultery, nobody would like to hear.   (Matt. 5:31, 32 and Roms 7:1-3).

REPENT, FOR THE KINGDOM OF YaH IS AT HAND, All you who erred, all who are heavy laden; come, YaH will heal your backsliding and put you on the right path.

When a woman takes the role of a man, she rebels against YaH, and the blessing is not there. Single unmarried motherhood is pitiful and painful. It brings forth children who grow up without the strong arms of leadership and direction of a father; many became wanderers and are a burden to society.  Single unmarried motherhood is a scourge of our society, our nation, and to the KINGDOM OF YaH. It was never YaH'S plan for the woman to be called upon to head the home. Children without fathers are fatherless and YaH takes great pity on the fatherless (orphans) but He will not pity children of unmarried mothers,  (Hosea 2:4).   And a home without a father or mother is not a healhy home. A father provides leadership and direction and supplies all the needs, and a mother is for an arm of support to bring comfort, encouragement and tenderness to both father and children or when life gets difficult.  A home without one or the other is not a healthy, vibrant home; it is void. 

REPENT, FOR THE KINGDOM OF YaH IS AT HAND, All you who erred, all who are heavy laden; come,  YaH will heal your backsliding and put you on the right path.

The KINGDOM OF YaH has come, but is it in your heart? Look around and search your heart. If not, the time has come for you to put your marriage in tune with YaH'S great purpose. The KINGDOM OF YaH begins in the home, YOUR HOME, should be a home where the walls are called "salvation" and the door, "praise." and all who lives within; and goes in and out of it, shall be saved.

Do you want such a home? Do you want the KINGDOM OF YaH in your heart and home?   Write for more information or tell us your wish or desire. The Peace YaH be with you,

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge, (what knowledge?  knowledge of YaHVaH). Because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me, seeing thou hast  forgotten the law of thy Elohim, I will also forget thy children. Hosea 4:6